Getting a divorce is not a decision that you should make on the spur of the moment. Sure, you and your spouse may have exchanged harsh words that have cut into the heart deeply. But are these fights worth sacrificing your marriage for? Can’t the two of you try to reconcile and save your marriage?
One way by which you can try to save your marriage is by going for counseling. However, there are some couples who are reluctant to air their “dirty linen” to an outside party.
If you and your spouse are one such couple, you can prepare yourselves for the counseling sessions to come by doing your own evaluation of the state of your marriage, using the same questions that will be asked during counseling. These questions will encompass vital aspects of a marital relationship which are frequently plagued by problems.
Marriage Self Evaluation
Let us lit down the key aspects of married life and the questions that you and your husband or wife will need to meditate upon…
Questions on Your Relationship
- Are you a strong believer in divorce? What are your specific views about it? What marital issues would warrant divorce?
- Are you and your spouse frequently fighting? What specific issues do you two fight about?
- Even with the fights, do you still love your spouse and equally accord each other respect?
- Can you honestly say that you love your spouse that you would want to salvage your marriage?
Questions on Money
- Is one or both of you working? Are you earning enough for your family’s needs? Do you have problems managing the budget?
- Is one or both of you in serious debt?
- Do you have differing views on money management? Are you concerned that your spouse is spending too much? Does it irritate you that your spouse is a spendthrift?
- Are there any existing issues between you that are specifically due to money?
- Do you and your spouse discuss financial matters and work together to solve any problems?
- Do you believe that money problems are a good reason to get a divorce?
Questions on Sex and Intimate Relations
- Can you honestly say that you are sexually satisfied in your marriage?
- If not, what are the sexual problems between you?
- Are these sexual problems related to a medical condition? Are you undergoing treatment for this condition?
- Do these sexual problems interfere with your desire to have children?
- Is infertility or impotence a valid reason for you to divorce your spouse?
- Do you feel comfortable talking to your spouse about the sexual/intimate aspects of your relationship?
- Do you believe that your spouse is faithful to you? Is divorce an option if you discover your spouse is cheating on you?
Use these sample questions to evaluate the state of your marriage prior to counseling. An honest assessment can help you to identify weak spots in your relationship, address them, seek solutions, and thus save your marriage.