The New Year is about to roll in and life, as they say, is about to start anew. In the same vein, you should also give your relationship a brand new start in the coming year. It’s not enough that you set resolutions for yourself; you and your partner should also come up with resolutions that the both of you should accomplish for the coming New Year.
Whether your relationship has been particularly rocky in the previous year or it’s just “same old, same old”, you should make the effort to implement changes for your continued growth as a couple.
Here are some tips on how you can revitalize your relationship this New Year…
1) Be Positive
If you have had a troubled relationship during the previous year or even before that, you may be harboring negative thoughts that the coming year will just be more of the same.
Wallowing in negativism will lead to the same troubles affecting your relationship, simply because you are not only expecting them to happen, you may subconsciously be acting in ways that will cause these problems to resurface.
Get rid of all that tension when you and your spouse are together and loosen up. Don’t just be all criticisms. Learn to see the positive in your spouse.
2) Strive to Improve
No one is perfect, certainly not you or your spouse. Most of the time, you may not even be aware of your faults which are negatively affecting your partner.
If you are committed to having a better relationship, first, you must sit down and examine yourself carefully. See what habits and behaviors annoy your partner and think of ways to change.
Second, sit down with your spouse and discuss quietly and calmly about what problems you have with the other. Don’t let your discussions get heated to the point that you start arguing all over again.
Say that you love them, but be firm in stating that you will make the effort to change, but the other must do so also.
3) Get Rid of Last Year’s Emotional Garbage
Have you had a bitter argument or fight that you find difficult in letting go? For this year, you have to consider burying the hatchet.
If you or your spouse started a fight and you haven’t apologized to the other, now is the time to do so. If you are the one being apologized to, don’t keep any resentments in, take a deep breath, and tell them that you forgive them.
Learn how to compromise and work through each other’s faults.
4) Build Goals Together
At the start of the New Year, take the time to sit down and talk about your goals for the coming year. Discuss your individual goals as well as your goals as a couple.
By sharing your plans with the other, you can be able to make adjustments in your respective lives and work together to achieve mutual goals.
Indeed, if you are united in working toward achieving your goals, you stand to become stronger as a couple.